So, we all breathed a collective sigh of relief after taking my ex (my baby mama) back to court on Monday morning to raise the amount of child support Logan gets.
It's funny how people act in court. Some people get really nervous. I always see it as way to say interesting things in front of people I don't know but have a great deal of power over things. I always tell the truth obviously -but interesting things nonetheless. I’ve found that the truth is generally not something people want to hear though. Makes 'em feel or something.
The thing about child support is that it always seems to turn into this odd battle between ex's. Over visitation, custody, instead of just paying the piper as it were. I always paid my child support whether it was hard or not. That's my responsibility. It wasn't always fair but if you look at it like a way to help your child it's not so bad. Generally because the marriage didn’t work out, somebody is still mad, hurt, whatever.
I've never gone after the child support before because of the situation with Logan. My thought was that if he had a chance to get to know his mother -I didn't want any backbiting money issues there to interfere with it. Well that and I didn’t realize how hosed Logan was getting and how much she had. It’s kind of the first time I ever stood up to her.
So at any rate, Logan got to know her and it turned out that her abandoning him at 5 was probably the best thing that could have happened for him. Which again, odd way for things to turn out? Most mothers have some sort of internal device for nurture and child rearing. Hers seems to be missing or at least sorely lacking.
Anyway, in an effort to make things at least a little better for Logan we went back to court to raise his paltry child support. Through the course of the proceedings the ex's mother got really pissed off at me. I don't even know why? I've spent more time with her over the years than the ex has. (Don’t even get me started on the hillbilly circumstances that is my first marriage…) Apparently doing right by her grandson isn't a huge priority for her. But whatever -after the last few years I’m getting used to this from ex(s).
Again though I marvel at the way some people take their own anger/judgment/rage and turn it into something about the children. It sucks but I guess that's just how it all washes out. The truth will come out. It always does.
Oh! And we aren't homeless anymore. That's always nice -a roof I mean. Keeps out the wolves and whatnot. Plus, I'm even learning all about St. Paul for the first time ever. Interesting town.
The past month has really schooled me on who my friends are, who my family is and how lucky I am to know the people I know. It also seems to have revealed all the two faced liars in my life. Arguably, I could certainly be bitter and resentful but really -what’s the point?
Family doesn’t change and true friends are happy to see you, happy to help, happy to listen to you, and seek your advice as well. Life, as they say, is a pretty sweet fruit.
Probably not for the ex’s but then that’s only just beginning much more serious things to come (also legal) . I guess using the old iNTj for good is working out instead of ostracizing us for once.
Posted by shawn at September 29, 2004 11:33 AM